This isn’t new to me.
I’ve seen this before — the buildup, the post, the pile-on, the removal, the silence. It always follows the same choreography. They say just enough to cause damage, not enough to be legally accountable, and then disappear when the consequences start closing in.
I used to be shocked when it happened.
Now I expect it.
The faces change. The platforms change. The tactics evolve slightly, but the blueprint never does.
Step one: pretend it’s harmless.
Step two: frame it like concern, or worse — humour.
Step three: let it circulate. Let it bite. Let it stain.
Step four: remove it quietly and pretend it never existed.
Step five: act confused when anyone brings it up again.
That’s not a coincidence.
That’s a method.
And now they’ve used it on me — again.
I know the impact because I’ve lived it before.
I’ve felt the shift in how people speak to me.
I’ve heard the hesitation in their voices when they say my name — Calvin Hardie.
I’ve watched how quickly perception can be shaped by a single clip, a headline, a whisper dressed up as content.
It’s not the first time someone has tried to rewrite my identity.
It’s not the first time I’ve been reduced to a moment, or a rumour, or a platform’s lack of moderation.
But what they still haven’t learned is that I write everything down.
Every pattern.
Every repeat offence.
Every attempt to disguise cruelty as curiosity.
I don’t just see the damage. I trace its shape.
Because once you’ve been through this enough times, you stop reacting and start archiving.
You stop asking them to explain, and start collecting the proof of how often they don’t.
This series is called Playback for a reason.
Because I’ve seen the cycle.
I’ve survived it.
And now I’m playing it back publicly — post by post — so no one else gets to pretend it didn’t happen.
This isn’t personal anymore.
It’s pattern recognition.
And I’ve seen enough to know exactly where this leads.
You can post it, delete it, deny it, and disappear — but I’m still here.
I always am.
— Calvin-Lee Hardie
Inverness